Marriage

It has been awhile since I last wrote, over a year. I am going to start treating this as a public journal, making myself transparent. Something about the thought of someone reading what goes through my mind makes me yearn to work harder at it. I am about three months away from getting married to the most wonderful, godly, and encouraging woman I have ever met. Let me tell you, it has been a grand adventure filled with learning and love. I very much enjoy learning about her life and her quirks.

Let me give you some advice to you single guys reading this. A relationship takes a lot of work and patience, and you must be both spiritually and mentally ready to conquer the task at hand. Financially ready doesn't hurt either, at least be solid in your job or career. If you do not think you are ready to give all that to a woman, then do not even think about dating. When you date, and gain a relationship, today's culture treat it as a game. Something that everyone does to fill that love void in their life. There is no commitment, and its just "hes my man" or "shes my girl". Then the topic of marriage comes up and the guy bails out. Do not be this guy. When you proceed into a first date with a girl, you must have the mindset of marriage.

I heard from a good friend that many fights happen because the man is not taking leadership. I believe this to be true, which is why men must step up and start practicing MAN skills such as taking the initiative in decision making, being responsible with finances/job, and generally leading people. I have not always been a leader in my life, and with this relationship, my leadership skills have been tested, and improved greatly. With God's help, I believe I am able to lead this woman into marriage, and to provide her with my care.

I am very excited on where God will take me these next few years as a married man. I am very certain that He has called me to be a disciple maker, meeting with other Christians one-on-one and encouraging them with accountability and biblical conversation. This is my main call of ministry. I know that I am a musician, and have the ability to use my instrument to connect people in worship with God. I will never abandon that ministry, and will step up when God allows. Music will always be a secondary ministry to me, next to my primary disciple-making ministry. I pray that God give me strength to give me men to minister to, and to give me the correct words to speak to them in whatever they are struggling with.